It may seem sad that I had to google "how to handle a breakup", but that's what I did today. I happened upon the LEARN process which is as follows:
List
Experience
Appreciation
Reorganizing
No sex with your ex!
The list is where I will have to list all the things I did not like about my ex. None of this of course will be posted on here, but I will have my list. Experience is the understanding that this breakup, while extremely painful, is not the end of the world and I will find someone who will love me again...maybe even more so than last time. Appreciation is where I will make a list of 50 things that I love about myself. Reorganizing-making friends or spending time with friends who have nothing to do with him, this way I can have a break. Lastly, No sex with the ex! This is difficult, because it's unfortuately happened a few times even after I've said I won't allow it. I did make a stand the last attempt,and we did not do anything, and I just need to stick with that. Every time it has happened, after he left I felt emptier and more alone than I did before. I know, I KNOW it's not healthy do to. It makes things so much harder on me than it needs to be.
Maybe I'm just having a really tough day, or I'm really starting to get into "mourning" phase. I'll just stick with this process...starting with N and working towards L!
3 comments:
I think that is really cool, I mean the LEARN thing. I hope it helps! :)
I have googled many a thing that I would be a bit embarrassed to mention. Once, I googled "Things to do when bored"... yup. I think one of the suggestions was to knit. Hmmm...
stay strong sister. things will get better and easier the more you accept what is happening as reality. and that whole "N" is a really really important thing. I think I will make a list myself. I still have those little moments with pangs of heartbreak over you know who, so maybe it will help.
I think everyone could benefit from the A part as well. So many times we sell ourselves short or fail to appreciate the great qualities we possess. :) I think I will make a list. It sounds hard.
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